Common Conflicts

How to Stop the Arguing Before It Even Starts: The Traffic Light Tool

How to Stop the Arguing (Before It Even Starts): The Traffic Light Tool

We’ve all been there before, a spicy conversation leads to escalating tensions and suddenly IT’S ON.

This tool is designed to help you increase self awareness, handle emotional stress, and learn how to stop the arguing when conversations get spicy.

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Brave Woman at Protest to Dismantle Patriarchy

Love in the Messy Middle: 10 Ways to Dismantle Patriarchy in Your Relationship/s

Many of us feel emotional & cognitive dissonance between our commitment to social justice, while still having to navigate the realities of the world we *actually* live in. This is especially apparent in the relational dynamics with friends, family, and partner/s.

Like, yeah, I want to live from my feminist values, AND how do I change paradigms within an already established relationship?

Tara Thomas & Anna Walsh talk how to dismantle patriarchy within intimate relationships, and how that relates to overarching frames of patriarchy and capitalism in the mid-digital age.

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What is Emotional Labour in Relationships?

Emotional labour is the energy & effort required to perform the task of managing emotions for self & others, so how does it affect relationships?
In the context of relationships, emotional labour includes a whole shit load of work performed to make sure others feel emotionally ‘comfortable’.

This piece will unpack some of the fuckery that comes with that work, and some of the common relational patterns arising from emotional labour.

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Is Social Media a Force for Good or Evil in Relationships?

With social media and electronic devices becoming omnipresent in our lives, how can we keep our sense of agency in the way we use them? And is their influence on our relationships a force of good, or evil? The Sugar Doctor and Kia Handley discuss the impact of social media in intimate relationships. [Includes audio & full transcript]

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Who has the Power as the Decision Maker in Your Relationship?

What happens when one partner has to make all the decisions? Tara Thomas and Kia Handley talk about whether it is okay to delegate decision making, and what to do if you want to change who is the decision maker. [Includes audio & full transcript]

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Smashed Glass symbolising fragile friendships

Do You Have Fragile Friendships? 30 Tips to Turn Fragility Into Longevity

How fragile are your friendships? I mean, let’s get real here; What happens if someone doesn’t reply to a text? What do you do if it’s “too hard” to arrange a catch-up? Which of your invisible rules have you articulated to your friends? Are you flexible and generous in your interpretations?

Relationships can be tricky at the best of times, and often it’s a lack of relational skill that leads to fragile friendships.

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