Meet Tara Thomas - Relationship Coach

I'm Tara (She/Her) and I'm a Relationship Coach in Toronto,  Lake Macquarie on Awabakal Country. I'm a white, married, middle-class, educated, cis, bi, able bodied, neuro-diverse (AuDHD) woman, living with chronic fatigue.

I'm a fellow weirdo, and have never traveled a conventional path. It can suck because the world isn't designed for misfits, sometimes it's myself I'm rebelling against, and being a weirdo can feel lonely.

I believe that partner/s & couples therapy is about skills building, not person fixing~I take an experimental approach, incorporating movement alongside curious conversations. I collaborate with partner/s, polycules, & individuals to discover their unique dynamics... It's a choose-your-own-adventure kind of ride!

I swear a lot, think life's too short for drama, and dream of a world where we ALL belong.

A picture of Tara smiling and wearing black rimmed glasses. She is standing in front of a bookcase & a blackboard with a purple wall. There's a large green West German Pottery vase on a shelf.

I'm Tara (She/Her) and I'm a Relationship Coach in Toronto,  Lake Macquarie on Awabakal Country. I'm a white, married, middle-class, educated, cis, bi, able bodied, neuro-diverse (AuDHD) woman, living with chronic fatigue.

A picture of Tara smiling and wearing black rimmed glasses. She is standing in front of a bookcase & a blackboard with a purple wall. There's a large green West German Pottery vase on a shelf.

I'm a fellow weirdo, and have never traveled a conventional path. It can suck because the world isn't designed for misfits, sometimes it's myself I'm rebelling against, and being a weirdo can feel lonely.

I believe that partner/s & couples therapy is about skills building, not person fixing~I take an experimental approach, incorporating movement alongside curious conversations. I collaborate with partner/s, polycules, & individuals to discover their unique dynamics... It's a choose-your-own-adventure kind of ride!

Why I Do What I Do

This isn't a story about how I did the thing and now I have the perfect relationship that you should all want...

That's just not true. That is a bullshit marketing lie that people tell you to make you think if you just spend enough money on a relationship coach you can have the life you think you want... it's not real.

Like, I'm happy (mostly) and love my partner (all the amount) but we have highs & lows like any other humans in relationship.

My mission is repairing intimate connections to create relational ripples that generate networks of care.

What I've come to believe through a slow evolution of thinking, lots of applied learning, and working with hundreds of people as their Relationship Coach, is that there is no single answer to how to do this thing we call relating.

However, there ARE a bunch of helpful strategies that will help YOU navigate what works best in YOUR relationship/s. That'll be different to what everyone else does, and that's what makes it cool.

I believe that healing happens relationally, and that by nurturing healthy & happy interactions on a micro level in each of our relationships we will fundamentally transform our communities.

What Matters To Me

I'm a quiet soul. Outside of my work as a relationship coach, I love nothing better than to hang out with Jimmy T and my two dogs Billy & Roo Beans (um, they even have their own Insta @billyandroobeans). My three favourite activities are gardening, reading, and coffee & chats.

I'm passionately anti-capitalist, politically very left, and these values are strongly expressed in my work.

Fun fact: 90% of new clients, when asked why they called me and not another couples therapist, say "because you swear on your website". I AM quite swear-y, and frankly if that's offensive I reckon you're getting mad about the wrong shit.

Qualifications

I have been a coach since 2013, and specialised in Relationship Coaching since 2014.

  • Internationally Certified Extended DISC Consultant & Trainer
  • Completed Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy
  • Gottman Couples & Addiction Recovery
  • Gottman Treating Affairs & Trauma
  • Certified Practitioner Neuro-Linguistic Programming
  • Certified Instant Insight Communication Systems™ Relationship Coach
  • Certified Instant Insight Communication Systems™ Sex Coach
  • Trained in Alice Haemmerle's Client Code™
  • Certified Non Linear Movement Method® Teacher
  • Certified Facilitator of The Wild Woman's Circle™
  • Studying The Developmental Model with Ellen Bader 2024-2025

KIND WORDS FROM CLIENTS

Working with Tara was an amazing experience. Her style of communication and no-nonsense approach to problem-solving really resonated with me.

During the sessions, I learnt a tremendous amount about myself, and how relationships actually work. The experience has helped me to develop a much better understanding of how to resolve conflicts and respond to the emotional needs of others. I highly recommend giving it a go!

~Matt B
Hunter Valley

Tara was able to provide us with some really usefully and tangible tools and info to work with.

The outcomes for us were that we were able to really highlight the things that are important to us and put into perspective the trivial things.

~Steve Haran & Chris Mostyn
Newcastle

Tara has been a godsend!

I have been working with her for a little under six months, and her support and insight have helped me in my self development and healing. Her approach is evidence-based, compassionate, and adaptive to my shifting needs.

Through my work with her, I have gained knowledge and skills that have supported my self-awareness and integration. I am very satisfied with and grateful for her service, and would highly recommend her for anyone who wants support on their relational healing journey.

~Akua
Chicago, IL

Tara has helped my husband and I develop more insights and strategies to relate to each other in a more positive, loving way. Our long term relationship has improved through practicing the skills and ways of speaking to one another.

On first meeting Tara, we felt welcomed and understood. Her flexible, empathetic, non-judgemental approach has made the repair of our relationship a positive and empowering experience. She provided so many resources to refer to, so the value of pairing with Tara for coaching remains long after the sessions ended.

~Karen

Hunter Valley

In only three sessions I have learnt a lot about myself and where I am at right now. This has been enlightening. I have been trying every google search based result I could find to help me manage what goes on in my head, and none of it seemed to work. I figured I was the problem.

Your insight into me has provided some clarity and confidence that I just haven’t found what works for me yet. Maybe it’s the exercises you have already given, maybe it’s something else, I don’t know. But the compassion you have shown, mixed with a direct but strategic approach has already helped us start to work through the issues we have.

It highly likely I would have split with M. and been a mess at this time were it not for these sessions. I came very close to that.I have no idea what will pan out these next couple of months, or beyond, but so far I am confident that I will be better able to manage things in my head.

So my feedback is that you have been the right person, at the right time (maybe a little later than we should have) and we really appreciate your style and approach. Not to mention you as a person.

~S.

Absolutely love Tara!
Not only did she help us communicate as a couple in different ways, I learnt so much about myself.
I cannot recommend her enough.
Just do it! You will love her!

~ Heather
Hunter Valley