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Boundaries versus rules is an important distinction when we navigate power dynamics within relationships. A boundary is about power within me to make my decisions. A rule is about power over your decisions.

Tara Thomas & Kia Handley talk about the different types of power in a relationship, and how to collaborate to express preferences, maintain boundaries, and navigate rules or agreements.

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Emotional Labour of Fake Smiles

Emotional labour is the energy & effort required to perform the task of managing emotions for self & others, so how does it affect relationships?
In the context of relationships, emotional labour includes a whole shit load of work performed to make sure others feel emotionally ‘comfortable’.

This piece will unpack some of the fuckery that comes with that work, and some of the common relational patterns arising from emotional labour.

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Couple Sleeping Separately

Sharing a bed can increase intimacy, connection, and the amount of REM sleep we get, but it isn’t always a bed of roses. What do we need to consider when we are deciding whether or not to sleep in separate beds? Tara Thomas & Kia Handley discuss the pros and cons of separate beds. [Includes audio & full transcript]

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Textationship Phone

Textationship is the latest portmanteau on the scene and describes a relationship that is text only. Are these still legitimate relationships? What about when you’re dating? What are the pros and cons of a textationship?
The Sugar Doctor and Craig Hamilton chat all things textationships
[Includes audio & full transcript]

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is gossip bad

Social scientists define gossip as ‘sharing about people who aren’t there’. So is gossip bad for relationships? Are there different types of gossip? Tara Thomas & Kia Handley discuss the gossip spectrum and how to be better at pro-social behaviours.
[Includes audio & full transcript]

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old friendships

Friendships can change depending on the stage of your life, as well as whether you are both growing & changing at the same pace and in the same ways. One of the hardest things to know is when should you put the effort into maintaining an old friendship? And when is it time to let it go? The Sugar Doctor and Kia Handley talk about navigating friendship.
[Includes audio & full transcript]

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