Relationship Roles

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Defining Roles in Relationships: Escaping Relational Fuckery

Roles in relationships are rarely explicitly defined- most couples fall into roles that draw from the best & worst of their family histories. Those roles aren't reviewed strategically, and are only discussed when frustration or resentment trigger an argument (or ongoing conflict). In couples therapy all of the couples I work with have challenges directly created by poorly defined or disputed roles.
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3 Practical Approaches to Being Best Friends With Your Partner

Being Best Friends with your partner is about your ability to connect with each other. It is the element that sustains your love beyond any challenge or change in your lives. Given that 69% of relationship issues are unsolvable, and 16% of those lead to gridlock, wherever we build connection we will also find contrasts. The deepest work in navigating these differences, is discerning for yourself “can I bring grace & generosity to accepting this contrast will persist? Am I ready to engage & generate solutions? Or is this, in fact, intolerable? And this deep work requires strong friendship.
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Who has the Power as the Decision Maker in Your Relationship?

What happens when one partner has to make all the decisions? Tara Thomas and Kia Handley talk about whether it is okay to delegate decision making, and what to do if you want to change who is the decision maker. [Includes audio & full transcript]
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From Partner to Carer: Navigating Difficult Role Transition

Making the transition from partner to carer can be sudden and provide a big challenge to your relationship. Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor talk about how to navigate shifting dynamics in your relationship when one partner requires an additional level of care due to illness, accident, or disability. [Includes audio & full transcript]
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The 3 Key Relationship Roles for Fulfilled Partnerships

Intimate relationships require 3 key relationship roles to bring intimacy, passion, and meaning to a conscious partnership. Co-create with purpose...
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The 5 Invisible Friendship Rules

The best of my friendships are found in that sweet spot between shared interests & values, great communication, and aligned “rules” of engagement. That is, once we meet the criteria of being friends, the depth is dictated by the degree of match between our secret invisible criteria for successful relationships. It is definitely possible to…
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